Tips on Giving Wedding Speeches

What if you are chosen to give a speech for the bride and groom during their wedding reception? Whether you are the father, the best man or a very close friend, giving a speech is never easy. What do they expect you to say? And what if you are not used to speaking in front a lot of people? Of course you don’t want the bride and the groom to be disappointed with what you are going to say. Especially since this is a crucial day which they will remember all their lives.

The web is a sea of information for you. However, the suggestions are too broad and vague. Here are some techniques that might help you.

First, never assume that you can just give an impromptu speech. It is harder to think of what to say especially if you are due within the next few minutes. If you couldn’t think of a topic during the time you are relaxed, how much more when you are pressured?

Second, ask the bride and the groom if there is something that they want you to talk about or mention. Knowing what they expect reduces the risk of them being disappointed. It is alright to ask, if they are close to you, they will understand that giving speeches is not your thing. You can also ask other people who have been in the same situation as you; they may have some tips and topics to suggest.

Your speech is dedicated to the couple, so don’t say something that might embarrass them or your guests. Think of happy memories that they won’t be ashamed of letting other people know. It is alright to give some jokes; it helps lighten up the mood. However, don’t overdo it.

If you already have a topic, sequence them accordingly. Write down the speech you have thought of and read it. Does it make sense? Does it seem as if you are jumping from one topic to another? Better yet, allow other people to read it and see if it sounds good.

Giving a speech is not a competition. You shouldn’t think that your speech is better than others’. Just try to practice your speech in front of somebody else and ask them to give some suggestions.

Lastly, relax. What is important is that you say what you mean and mean what you say. The wedding couple gave you the task of giving a speech because you are dear to their heart and that they trust you. Don’t be so hard on yourself and just enjoy.