The Groom is the other half of the grand celebration which is the wedding, his presence is very, very, very important, not only on the wedding day itself, but even during the preparation stage. However, there are a lot of men who leave the planning to the women, thinking that planning a wedding is a “girl thing”. That is not true. A wedding is an event that needs the participation of both parties.
So how do you urge your husband to lend a hand? First, try not to overwhelm him with tasks. If you do, he might end up saying he really doesn’t know anything about this stuff and leave all the planning and decision making to you. Initially, since you know him well, give him tasks that can be enjoyable for him. Think about his interests. Does he like music? Ask him to look for musicians for your wedding.
Second, ask him nicely. Don’t be too condescending. Tell him that you respect his decisions and would like to know about his opinion, since wedding is a venture of two people, and not an individual. Let him decide about small matters first. Other things such as where the reception should be is one the things that you should not entirely rest on his shoulders.
Another thing that you can ask him to do is check the web. There is a lot of information that you need, and the internet is one of the best sources. You can just give him a list and he can surf away. Also, don’t give him a deadline, or else he will think of this a task that he is required to do, and not something he would really want to spend time on.
Finally, if he is freely offering his opinion, try not to be close minded just because you have already decided on the matter. Listen to what he wants to say and weigh them.
Planning the wedding together is just one step away from more plans, once you are married. This is like a practice ground, where you can assess each others willingness and concern.
You might as well consider some advice on Bridal Decorum.
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